You and the love of your life have been together for quite some time now and you have considered planning a day to tie the knot, but you may be wondering, how do you know exactly when you should do it? How do you know when it’s the right time to elope?
This is going to be different for everyone, and in light of recent events surrounding COVID-19 and new social distancing rules, you may be more confused than ever in regards to when it’s appropriate to actually get eloped.
There are a few general guidelines we can give that not only will help you decide when, but how to approach this whole social distancing thing as it pertains to getting married.
Get Married on Your Terms
One of the fundamental benefits of eloping is that you get to set the pace of your ceremony. You’re not bound by the schedules of 100 different people or the availability of your local church. Everything is in your hands as to when to actually get eloped.
So the question then becomes, what works best for you? What theme are you going for and what are you most comfortable with? If you are planning on a beautiful beach elopement, obviously you want to aim for the summer months, or the spring or fall depending on what part of the country. Or perhaps you want to stroll around downtown New Orleans, or walk through the parks. Well, your decision as to when to have your elopement will depend on what you want to see and the general temperature you mind.
New Orleans has the wonderful benefit of being relatively mild even during the winter, so if you are looking for a place all year ‘round that will allow you to get eloped outside or enjoy some nightlife, New Orleans is the city for you! However, there are certain trees that are more attractive in the fall, and if you would prefer temperatures that are less extreme, you may consider avoiding the summer months altogether and sticking with the cooler months of the year.
The key here is, it’s all up to you. When you get eloped, every time is technically the right time, so long as it aligns with what you are looking for in a romantic elopement ceremony. Whether you are trying to line up your elopement with a certain festival, or if you plan on sightseeing through the botanical gardens and parks, the choice is yours. You simply have to plan accordingly.
What About Family Expectations?
This is where things get a bit trickier. Managing family expectations for when and how you’re supposed to get married can often be complicated. The most important thing you have to remember is to only do what you are comfortable with and not to let outsiders influence the decisions of your relationship.
If you feel like it’s the right time to get eloped, it’s the right time. The more input you seek from other people, the higher the chance is that someone, somehow, for whatever reason, is going to be against it or try and talk you out of it. Waiting around for family approval or for a mystical time in the future when they are “ok with it” is not going to do anything for your relationship.
The right time to elope is when you and your partner agree that it’s the right time. When you are comfortable, have an agreed upon location, a venue picked out, and a theme, you have everything you need. You are ready and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you different.
It can admittedly be difficult. Ideally you want your family completely on board with elopement. It’s good to keep in mind that the right time for you isn’t going to be everyone’s “right time.” Understanding this, it’s a lot easier to simply forgive and forget and move on. Your job isn’t to please everyone. If you feel like now is the time to get eloped, that’s your business and no one else’s, besides your partner.
What to do About Coronavirus Restrictions?
Times are changing and with all of the recent quarantining rules and social distancing advice, it’s become substantially trickier to get married in any way. You may feel like it’s the right time to get eloped, but there are some points you may want to keep in mind.
If you have your destination picked out and you don’t need to hop on a plane to get there, and you are only having a very small intimate elopement with a couple close friends and family, and you don’t mind not really going out to eat or doing anything significant before or after the ceremony because all of the businesses are closed, then by all means, get eloped right this second.
However, it may be wise to take a step back and plan for the future. Eloping in this climate is not going to give you the most optimal experience. What you can use this time for at the moment is researching exactly where you want to go and where you want to do, and being smart with your money so you can afford to live it up when you’re on your elopement.
If New Orleans is your elopement destination of choice, you can take the time to plan for a date in the future after the Coronavirus restrictions have lifted and you are able to have your elopement exactly how you want it. There’s no reason to limit your ceremony by getting married right this second. In fact, you’re only going to be taking away from yourself if you go that route. Better to wait awhile and have your ceremony your way, without the restrictions and limitations.
Until then, hunker down, practice safe social distancing, and plan your ultimate elopement exactly when you want it…after the restrictions have lifted!