Do you have dreams of a magical wedding but have no idea how you’ll afford it all and hate the thought of planning such a massive event when it should just be about the romance?
You’re not alone. More and more couples are considering elopement as an alternative to traditional weddings, not only because of how fun and exciting they are, but because they are much less of a hassle and will not force you to break the bank.
Eloping once had a reputation for being something only a select few couples would choose to do under extreme circumstances, but not anymore.
In fact, as the economy and our social customs change, many couples are discovering that traditional weddings just don’t “fit” for them anymore.
What’s more, you can tailor an elopement to fit your needs instead of the other way around. You can opt for a super simple ceremony that’s small, intimate, and more like a honeymoon and wedding rolled into one. Or you can hold a full-blown wedding halfway across the country in your city of choice.
That’s the magic of eloping. There’s more control for the prospective bride and groom to do as they wish, with a much more manageable budget and under less stress. In this way, eloping is truly for everyone.
Here’s a few more reasons why you might want to reconsider your traditional wedding plans:
It’s your event, and it can be as small and intimate as you like. When you get eloped, you truly “own” the event.
This means you aren’t tied down to the traditional trappings of normal weddings. You aren’t obligated to invite 250 people, including cousins you never speak to and friends of friends you hardly know.
The ceremony itself can also be as big or as small as you like. It can be a tiny ceremony on the beach with just you, your significant other, and a few close friends and family. Or it can be as big as a wedding in a beautiful chapel half a world away (New Orleans has some famous ones you should check out).
You can also build more personal moments into the day of the ceremony, including a “first look,” event, where the couple gets to see each other before the ceremony, exchange personal vows, spend quality time, or even engage in a photo shoot.
Your choice of venue and events also means that you aren’t limited to making the magic happen just in the church or hotel of your choosing. You’ll have time to visit a restaurant and have a romantic dinner, or even take a moonlit stroll in a park long after everyone has left.
This intimacy is one of the greatest draws to getting eloped. You have all the control, not tradition, which means there is plenty of opportunity to make the ceremony more centered around romance and fun rather than just show.
You’re not going to be breaking the bank with an elopement.
Quite the contrary, compared to the typical wedding ceremony, you’ll be saving thousands or even tens of thousands. This is because, generally speaking, elopement ceremonies do away with many of the expenses of the average wedding. There’s far less people to cater to, there’s often much less emphasis on decorative items, and even the wedding dress doesn’t have to be as fancy.
It’s more about living in the moment and celebrating a couple’s union together. The main expense comes in flying to a location and booking a hotel room, but even that usually is much less than most of what you spend in a wedding. You can often get package deals on elopements, that offer everything else needed for the ceremony other than a hotel room and air fare, for as little as a couple thousand dollars or less.
This is peanuts compared to the cost of most weddings. You can hardly get away with spending that much just on the dress or florist, let alone everything else.
The price is one of the biggest draws to elopement. Instead of forking over a life savings just for one day, there’s more of a focus on saving money for the future and making smarter decisions that benefit you in the long haul. Not to mention you combine the wedding and honeymoon into one getaway, so you’re saving money there, too.
The average cost of a wedding in America is up to around $30,000, while the average cost of a weeklong destination elopement is well under $5000 and can often be much cheaper depending on where you go.
The last thing you want to do is kick off your marriage in debt or squabbling over whose bright idea was it to get a $2000 floral display.
Stress is one of the biggest relationship killers. In simpler times, it was easier to get knocked off your horse and get right back on, say if there was a lost job or medical emergency. Jobs were plentiful and medical costs were nowhere near as high.
Today’s world is different, which means saving money is more important for the long term goals of any good relationship. Sure, you want your wedding to be extravagant, but you also don’t want to start your marriage playing catch-up with your bank account.
Debt is a black hole for peace of mind and contentment. Nothing can gnaw away at a good time like knowing you frittered away over $20,000 for catering and doilies.
Couples are discovering that a smarter start to marriage means more contentment and more opportunities. In fact, starting with a nest egg for emergencies or a future home is almost becoming a trend with millennial couples.
Elopement means being able to save money yet still have an unforgettable experience.
Fantasy Come to Life
When your wedding and honeymoon are all rolled into one, there’s more room for magic.
Typical weddings are very weighed down by tradition and sometimes couples can’t make it what they want. When you elope, there are no rules. You can get married on a luxurious hotel balcony and follow the ceremony up with a romantic tour of a park, and cap the night off with a romantic dinner in a restaurant of your choosing. Or you can do something completely different.
You can plan an entire day or weekend’s worth of events that culminate in exchanging vows, or kick everything off with a simple chapel ceremony and then spend the week touring famous attractions or taking a cruise. The options really are limitless, and this is one of the main reasons why elopements are becoming more popular all over the world.
The only true downside to an elopement is that inevitably there’s going to be that one cranky relative that thinks you’re bucking tradition by not having a traditional wedding… and that’s OK!
Don’t feel obligated to bow to the whims of random family members. It’s your special day, you can make it what you want.
Truly, there are no real cons to elopement. You save money, you get to experience a more intimate kind of marriage, and you can craft the ceremony however you want. Unless your dream was always to have a 300 guest church wedding, there’s no way you can go wrong with an elopement.
Remember this if you’re on the fence about getting eloped and you have a few friends or family members in doubt, you should do what’s right for you.
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