5 ways to rid yourself of cold feet

I know, it is a serious topic, but it is one that must be discussed... Cold Feet also known as pre-wedding jitters is a natural feeling.  There are many causes for you to have second thoughts and in many cases it will go away once you go through 5 ways to rid yourself of cold feet.   

1.  Refelection

Explore your feelings. You are making a lifetime commitment to another person and you shouldn't take your vows lightly.  Remember why you fell in love and why you wanted to marry them.

2.  Honest assessment

Consider and Identify if your cold feet is an individual feeling or relationship feeling.  Are  they your own fears?  Insecurities about your emotional stamina? Stress? Again, these are all normal feelings.  Relax, enjoy these moments and get excited about spending the rest of your life with the love of your life. You are worth loving and you have found someone to love in return.

If you have identified your cold feet as a relationship feeling you should take time and explore these feelings no matter how uncomfortable they are.  Remember this contract is forever! 

3.  Rekindle your love

Often the wedding planning and days that lead up to the nuptials are very stressful. They can cause a lull in your intimacy.  Remember to reconnect, spend a day away from the wedding plans and share a lovely day together doing something you both enjoy. 

4.  Communicate

Address any issues before you get married. It may be difficult and change the pre-wedding mood, but the dialogue should happen before you get married, not after. 

Your fiancé can help put your fears at ease and reassure you that they are also in this forever and can't wait to share their life with you.

5.  Seek Counseling

Sometimes it is hard to share your true feelings and you don't want to hurt your fiancé.  Take the opportunity to sort through your feelings with an expert that can help you figure out the source of your jitters.  Sometimes talking things through with someone can help make the situation less over whelming.

You may even be interested and seeking premarital counseling before tying the knot to discuss lifetime goals, responsibilities and  perspectives and hash them out before moving forward.  Sometimes having a game plan helps calm the fears and gives you something specific to work towards.